Gen X Journey

Women don’t really like sex but have to endure it to snare their man. Well at least that’s what Stephen Fry says.

Who’s Stephen Fry you may well ask? He hosts this very intellectual show called QI in Britain. You, if you are like me and are not into intellectual shows, you may know him as the psychologist off Bones. No, not the skinny one who is barely out of puberty, he was the rather older one who treated Booth when he shot the clown. With me now?

OK, so Stephen Fry, who used to be obese is now skinny. He’s a boy cougar–his partner is 28 years his junior. Often happens doesn’t it? Lose weight, snare a younger lover, rule the world, tell everyone how to run their lives. He’ll be dyeing his hair blond next.

This is what he had to say in his interview in gay magazine Attitude this month.

• that men secretly felt ‘they disgust women’ as they ‘find it difficult to believe that females are as interested in sex as they are’. (I’ve always used this premise as my disgust measure)
• ‘If women liked sex as much as men, there would be straight cruising areas in the way there are gay cruising areas.’ (I think they’re called nightclubs and bars, but I could be wrong but if a public toilet floats your boat!)
• sex is ‘the price women pay’ to be in a relationship (just when we thought we were in committed relationships we find out we are merely glorified prostitutes)
• (that he is) ‘obsessed‘ with the ‘extraordinary underworld’ of cottaging – men meeting each other in public for casual sex (I am unable to comment since I’ve never cottaged or in fact ever wish to–I thought it was shopping for cute country houses)
• ‘I feel sorry for straight men. The only reason women will have sex with them is that the sex is the price they are willing to pay for a relationship with a man, which is what they want. (Gosh straight men, lucky you having Mr Fry care so much for you, knowing your needs and all)
• ‘Of course, a lot of women will deny this and say, ”Oh no, but I love sex, I love it!” But do they go around having it in the way that gay men do?’ (No, because they’re straight women, not gay men)

So ladies, now you know what this particular gay old man really thinks of you. His poor mother. And straight men out there–how are you feeling right now having him speak on behalf of you and your desires?
I would have thought that we would have moved beyond this sort of nonsense. Personally I would not feel that I could judge a homosexual’s sexual wants, needs or desires because I’m not one. Perhaps he could pay me and other women in relationships the same respect and not judge us because he’s not ever been in a committed heterosexual relationship.

Fry says that the interview was intended as humorous. Really–I’m thinking more misogyny than humour, but that could just be me. And he’s going to take home his bat and ball and stop Twittering. Now that would be a loss wouldn’t it?  Image